Kim Lucky Day
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Wasn't sure where to post this but I'm at a crossroads in my band's tenure that I'm guessing many of you who play/have played in bands can relate to.
First of all, this is only the 2nd band I've ever been in and by far the greatest in longevity. So I cannot claim to fully understand proper band etiquette and/or healthy dynamics. A little background- we are a 5 piece cover band, 4 instrumentalists and one full-time vocalist. Age ranges from late 30's to mid 60's. Musical tastes are wide ranging but the music we play is chosen democratically, as well as based upon our technical abilities to do the original justice. We tend to get along well, there aren't any ego issues and I believe most, if not all view this as a fun hobby that occasionally makes us m
My problem- dealing with others' varying skill levels. Our other guitarist has slightly beyond beginner level skills (okay, that's harsh but he really has difficulty playing and maintaining basic strumming rhythms and has zero dynamic awareness). Our vocalist is has a great voice but cannot memorize even his favorite song and is forced to rely on printed lyrics. The vocalist and guitarist were a "two for one sale", if one were to go, the other would likely follow. Our drummer is literally 90% deaf, making communication difficult. I could accept this but he tends to play one rhythm style whether the song calls for it or not and due to his hearing issues, he cannot reliably follow a song to know where to play a fill pattern.
We have our moments but because of the issues with the two musicians, most songs suffer from a lack of definition and dynamics. We pretty much have been together for about a year and have a few gigs under our belt, with the plan to expand on this. Question is for me, is this something I either want to be part of going forward or do I influence radical change to the group? Drummer and I started the group.
Which circles back to the proper band etiquette part. This isn't a full-time job, it's meant to be done for fun. I don't want to come off as a dick or a holier-than-thou. I'd also be willing to attempt to help bring along the other guitarist so as to improve his skills (I've kind of attempted this before in a way that didn't suggest "hey, you suck and need help" but he didn't take the hint... Can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink, I guess). But the drummer issue is one that I'm afraid is unsolvable.
I'm probably opening a can of worms here and am fully expecting some of you to point out that it's me who has the problem (which maybe I need to hear). Just trying to consider all angles on how to move forward here before I invest any more time/money on this venture. Sorry for making this long-winded...
KLD
First of all, this is only the 2nd band I've ever been in and by far the greatest in longevity. So I cannot claim to fully understand proper band etiquette and/or healthy dynamics. A little background- we are a 5 piece cover band, 4 instrumentalists and one full-time vocalist. Age ranges from late 30's to mid 60's. Musical tastes are wide ranging but the music we play is chosen democratically, as well as based upon our technical abilities to do the original justice. We tend to get along well, there aren't any ego issues and I believe most, if not all view this as a fun hobby that occasionally makes us m
My problem- dealing with others' varying skill levels. Our other guitarist has slightly beyond beginner level skills (okay, that's harsh but he really has difficulty playing and maintaining basic strumming rhythms and has zero dynamic awareness). Our vocalist is has a great voice but cannot memorize even his favorite song and is forced to rely on printed lyrics. The vocalist and guitarist were a "two for one sale", if one were to go, the other would likely follow. Our drummer is literally 90% deaf, making communication difficult. I could accept this but he tends to play one rhythm style whether the song calls for it or not and due to his hearing issues, he cannot reliably follow a song to know where to play a fill pattern.
We have our moments but because of the issues with the two musicians, most songs suffer from a lack of definition and dynamics. We pretty much have been together for about a year and have a few gigs under our belt, with the plan to expand on this. Question is for me, is this something I either want to be part of going forward or do I influence radical change to the group? Drummer and I started the group.
Which circles back to the proper band etiquette part. This isn't a full-time job, it's meant to be done for fun. I don't want to come off as a dick or a holier-than-thou. I'd also be willing to attempt to help bring along the other guitarist so as to improve his skills (I've kind of attempted this before in a way that didn't suggest "hey, you suck and need help" but he didn't take the hint... Can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink, I guess). But the drummer issue is one that I'm afraid is unsolvable.
I'm probably opening a can of worms here and am fully expecting some of you to point out that it's me who has the problem (which maybe I need to hear). Just trying to consider all angles on how to move forward here before I invest any more time/money on this venture. Sorry for making this long-winded...
KLD