PelliX
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Being in a band would be fun if it weren’t for having to deal with musicians.
...*and* the drummer...
Being in a band would be fun if it weren’t for having to deal with musicians.
Pretty sure one of my three gave up playing a long time ago, so that makes everything that much less complicated.Maybe we can get your three and my three together.
Call ourselves, What's Left
Hello, take that bass away from him and put a guitar in his hands if he's that good at it, instead of bass, get rid of the other so called drummer guitar player and get you some dedicated guys, to say they have time to rehearse (Practice is at home) Rehearsal is once a week) once a week is ridiculous, In the past I have driven 60 miles round trip once a week to rehearse and I had a full time job and it was in Fricking Wyoming, (in Denver now for 40 years) If you're the one that is always ready and the others are not it's either they don't have the time to dedicate some time once week to be in a band then move on, or they just don't care so get rid of them. if you wait for these kinds of people you will never have a kickass band, there are players out there at all levels that would take there place. sounds like you and the other guy you mentioned are the only ones in this band that really want to do it, and to find someone who likes all the business part of it you're doing great. so get some new members or you will never get out of the basement. I wish you the best!I've been playing guitar in a punk/heavy rock band for a while now. its actually been an ever evolving band with many line-up changes that has taken place over the past several years. we've even made a band name change recently to reflect our most recent line-up change - about 6 months ago, our drummer (who has been less than proficient on drums, leaving much to be desired) has switched to guitar... he's a slightly better guitarist than he is a drummer, but not by much... we then replaced him with a much better drummer, who I've been extremely happy with... I should also point out that our current drummer, 2nd guitarist, and bassist also happen to be in another band on the side (in their other band, the bassist does vocals/guitar, and the other 2 guys switch up back and forth between drums, and bass/vocals).
things have been going ok so far, but that's not to say that there hasn't been things that have frustrated me over the past year or so... our bassist is a guy I've known for many years. in the realm of punk/metal, he's actually an awesome guitarist... but for some reason (and I have no idea why), regarding his bass playing skills, it seems as if his playing abilities have actually gone down a notch. you put a guitar in his hands, and he's a seasoned, chugging riff machine, but you put a bass in his hands, and its as if he just started playing like, a few years ago (he's been playing for literally DECADES)... its the weirdest thing.
and then there is the OTHER guitarist (the guy that used to be our drummer)... he's an OK guitarist. he's just about good enough to get through the songs (which, I might add, are nowhere near complicated at all). sometimes it will frustrate me because we will play a song that we've rehearsed countless times for over a year now, and because we might not have practiced it in a while (our busy schedules sometime dictate that we go a few weeks without having a band rehearsal), the other guys will tend to sound unusually sloppy, as if we just wrote the song last week.... am I missing something? is it a subconscious bout of laziness? is it just that they don't really care and aren't as emotionally invested in this band? I have no idea.
our singer is a good guy - he is sort of the organizational guy in the band when it comes to promotional stuff, band art/imagery, website stuff, booking shows, writing lyrics, plus we rehearse in his basement... if it was up to me, I would replace our bassist, and second guitarist... hell, if it was up to me, I would keep this band as a one-guitarist band. but in my opinion, those two guys are holding us back, and its really bugging me. I'm just venting here to get all this off my chest. anyone else here ever have to deal with these issues?
in case you didn't see from my recent post, I quit that band a few weeks ago. I decided to move on. and look, we're all grown adults, and I don't want to have to be responsible to have to tell someone that they need to be more emotionally involved in the music, or they need to play more aggressively, or whatever... screw that... and aside from that, I'm not moving people around in the band either. we already switched our drummer to play guitar, and got a new drummer. no one else in that band had any desire to do any more instrument swapping. that would've turned into a clusterf*ck... but I digress... that band isn't my problem anymore. they will either continue as a 4-piece, or they will more than likely fizzle out and stop... I will be surprised if they get off their asses and actually do something (record demos, plays gigs, promote themselves, etc.).Hello, take that bass away from him and put a guitar in his hands if he's that good at it, instead of bass, get rid of the other so called drummer guitar player and get you some dedicated guys, to say they have time to rehearse (Practice is at home) Rehearsal is once a week) once a week is ridiculous, In the past I have driven 60 miles round trip once a week to rehearse and I had a full time job and it was in Fricking Wyoming, (in Denver now for 40 years) If you're the one that is always ready and the others are not it's either they don't have the time to dedicate some time once week to be in a band then move on, or they just don't care so get rid of them. if you wait for these kinds of people you will never have a kickass band, there are players out there at all levels that would take there place. sounds like you and the other guy you mentioned are the only ones in this band that really want to do it, and to find someone who likes all the business part of it you're doing great. so get some new members or you will never get out of the basement. I wish you the best!
Good point. The originals band I was in that imploded in 2021 left some hard feelings but I took the high road and still keep contact. So if my current band can get some songs going and we might need another band or 2 to share a bill with, it's good to know that I can probably still count on that singer's current band.I’m a bit late to this party but keeping good relationships with past (and possibly future) band members is never a bad thing. I keep in touch with damn near every former band member I’ve ever played with and there are many. Moving on from a musical situation that’s stagnant is a sign of maturity musically, remaining friends with those former band members is a sign of maturity personally.
You John Wick or something?That's 1978 to 1981, young whippersnapper.
Only 3 still alive..
Myself 62
Drummer 68
Sax player 73
You John Wick or something?
I thought he offed them...
... and drummers.Being in a band would be fun if it weren’t for having to deal with musicians.
yeah, after playing in tons of bands over the past 35 years, when it comes to hoping to connect with other potential band members, I've learned that for me, finding other like-minded guys that:... and drummers.
Same here. The last band I tried, in 2017, was a "classic rock" band, which didn't last long enough to gig before I gave up. I got tired of dealing with bands and quit gigging after that. It's enough work already, without 4-5 musicians texting and emailing and arguing back and forth all week. WAY too stressful. The last one I was in carried on for 2 weeks just trying to settle on a name. It's bar-room music - just call the band "Free Beer" already, who cares! Everyone had a different definition of what "kind" of classic rock songs to play: one wants Skynyrd and ZZ Top, the other w Beatles covers, and another guy wants songs people can dance to. Screw that. And besides, they all sucked anyway.yeah, after playing in tons of bands over the past 35 years, when it comes to hoping to connect with other potential band members, I've learned that for me, finding other like-minded guys that:
- are more than proficient at their instrument or craft
- are passionate, full of energy, creativity, and drive to play and write songs, and have musical goals that are aligned with my own
- have quality, reliable gear with great tone that they know how to use
- know how to and care enough to stay in tune
- are mature, civilized, have class, and have reliable transportation
- are really cool people that I connect with on a deeper, personal level
- actually live within an hour drive from me, and are available to commit to playing in a band with me on a regular, long-term basis
... is EXTREMELY rare these days. if I'm lucky, I will find other people that have maybe 2/3 of the qualities of this list. I don't know if I've ever found people to play with that possess all of these. and THAT makes me ponder whether or not I truly want to form a serious band at all, at my age (I'll be 49 in a month and a half).
I hear ya... with the band that I was just in for several years (up until a few months ago), it was maddening to attempt to pick a cover song that we all agreed on (we played mostly original material). we could never find a song that all 5 of us was ok with. and as for the whole band name thing - we actually switched our band name several times, because members kept getting replaced, and we would even switch around the roles of the different players... you're saying it only took you guys 2 weeks to pick a band name?? it took us WAY longer than that, each time.Same here. The last band I tried, in 2017, was a "classic rock" band, which didn't last long enough to gig before I gave up. I got tired of dealing with bands and quit gigging after that. It's enough work already, without 4-5 musicians texting and emailing and arguing back and forth all week. WAY too stressful. The last one I was in carried on for 2 weeks just trying to settle on a name. It's bar-room music - just call the band "Free Beer" already, who cares! Everyone had a different definition of what "kind" of classic rock songs to play: one wants Skynyrd and ZZ Top, the other w Beatles covers, and another guy wants songs people can dance to. Screw that. And besides, they all sucked anyway.