10kDA
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To the OP: I guess it's all part of the "Live and Learn" paradigm. I learned never to let others use my gear at gigs unless I knew them well, had been in bands with them before, or they were in my current band. Otherwise, it's not happening. Having said that, I have loaned guitars to some players on a semi-longterm basis, players who were starting out or needed a guitar that was more suited to the music they were playing. But they were also well-known to me and I have a bunch of guitars, so it wasn't a big deal if I did not have those particular guitars immediately at hand.
My drummer is a lefty. Yep - everything is mirrored right-to-left. He won't allow anybody to change or adjust anything, and NOBODY has even attempted to use his set, and we haven't run into another lefty drummer yet LOL. Problem not only solved, but so far nonexistent.My son is a pro drummer whose band headlines a lot of multi-band shows. Almost invariably he gets asked to supply the kit for the preceding bands. This requires him to be the first one there. Even though he stipulates the other drummers are to bring their own cymbals and throne, a lot of times they show up 5 minutes before they go on with only their own sticks! The arrogance of some of these punks is unbelievable. They almost never say thanks, or even stick around to hear the following bands. I think if one of them stayed and volunteered to help with tear down, he’d have a heart attack! He’s started to request $100 to help cover incidentals and for the hassle.
When I borrowed vehicles from friends who were gracious enough to let me use their trucks or vans, I always washed them before returning them. It was the least I could do to let them know I really appreciated their generosity.If you've never sacrificed ,and worked hard to obtain something,.....then you won't respect it.
I personally was taught to treat others stuff better than you treat your own.
I was taught this ,right after I was told not to ever borrow anyone's stuff.